Forums: Looking for a sponsor

Posted by Steve on Aug 22, 2013 in Sponsorship


my name is Steve. I have just recently found Coda and am grateful for it, but am looking to make the next step in working the program and getting better from here. What is the process in getting a sponsor? Just approaching someone after a meeting?

i am trying to figure out how to navigate all of this and work the steps but feel as though I need more help than just sharing at the meetings each week. 

Thank you,

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Debbie on Aug 27, 2013

I also am new and have been going to Alnon meetings and feel that CODA
is more self related and would like to take the next step.

D on Sep 22, 2013

Based on my reading of literature and my experience in the program, the typical process is the newcomer approaching someone whose recovery they admire after a meeting and asking that person if they can serve as a sponsor. Some meetings also pass around phone lists that have a category listing people who are willing to sponsor, and newcomers can call one of them. 

As it can be difficult to find a sponsor through these methods, there are a couple of other options. One is to find another newcomer who you feel comfortable with and ask to be "co-sponsors," that is work the steps together as equals. Also, the Wednesday 6:30 pm meeting at the Community Church is a step-writing meeting, which is a forum to work the steps. Some people also have found sponsors by attending CoDA meetings or events in other cities, asking someone there to sponsor them, and then communicating over the phone. 

More information about sponsorship (and co-sponsorship), how to find one, common issues, etc. can be found in the Sponsorship Booklet and the Newcomers Handbook. You can find them at meetings with literature or order them from

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